I realized that what I needed next wasn’t just about where I lived; it was about how I wanted to live.
After living in New York City for 15 years, I made the decision to leave. A lot of people asked, “Why?” and some even thought I was crazy to leave the hustle, the opportunities, and the constant buzz of NYC. But as time passed, I realized that what I needed next wasn’t just about “where” I lived; it was about how I wanted to live.
Moving away from NYC was a big decision, and it wasn’t easy. But it was the right one. This week marks the first anniversary of that decision, and looking back, I can say that leaving the city was the end of an era, but it was also the start of a new one! It wasn’t just about relocating; it was about embracing a new lifestyle that aligns with my vision for my present and my future.
If you're considering leaving NYC, or any big city for that matter, here’s a framework that goes beyond the typical checklist of logistics. These are the things that will shape the success of your decision in the long run. ‘
MAKE SURE IT'S YOUR TIME
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MAKE SURE IT'S YOUR TIME 〰️
Make sure it’s YOUR time
You might feel like everyone around you is making a big move—especially after the pandemic. It seems like everyone has a house now, is working remotely, and spending more time outdoors. But here’s the thing—just because it’s the right time for someone else doesn’t mean it’s the right time for you. Try to ask yourself, Have I done everything I wanted to do in NYC? Maybe you still have things to explore, or maybe you’ve already gotten what you needed from the city. The decision should feel right for you, no matter what anyone else is doing.
Research where to go
When it comes to finding a new place to call home, there are so many options. If you work remotely, the possibilities might feel endless! But it’s a good idea to try to reflect on what kind of life you actually want. Start by making a list of what’s important to you. Do you crave nature, quiet, and space? Or are you looking for something more vibrant and energetic? There are tons of cool places and hidden gems out there, but what works for you is really determined by the lifestyle you’re dreaming of. Take your time and think about what will really make you happy.
Honor your decision
Once you’ve made your decision, try to own it. I know it can be tempting to look back and wonder if you made the right choice, but try to focus on building the life you’ve chosen instead of looking back too much. Sure, treasure those amazing memories you made in NYC—those moments are part of your journey. But also, honor your decision by creating new experiences that are just as fulfilling. It’s up to you!
and after all that soul searching, keep in mind some practical logistics, too.
It's the little things
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It's the little things •
Do your research about daily life: schools, doctors, gyms, parks, entertainment, traffic, grocery stores, etc.
The little things in your everyday life can really impact how much you love or hate your new home. Is the neighborhood walkable? Are services like doctors, gyms, and grocery stores easy to access? How’s the traffic? These are all the tiny details that can make your day-to-day living a lot easier—or harder. It’s worth doing some research and figuring out what you really need for your lifestyle.
Consider current affairs vs internal desires
As you think about your move, try to consider how external factors—like climate change, politics, and the community culture—align with your personal desires. For example, if you’re dreaming of living by a lake, is that town prepared for climate change? These big-picture considerations may seem distant, but they can really affect your long-term happiness.
Reflect on family and community
How much do you need to have family and friends nearby? Can they easily visit, or will that be a challenge? Are you growing a family and need more local support, or can that take a back seat while you focus on other priorities? It’s worth thinking about how important community is to you. Whether you’re close to family or creating a new support system, having those connections can play a big role in your overall experience.
Taxes and budgeting
Taxes are one of those things you don’t always think about when planning a move, but they can have a huge impact on your budget. Try to look into how taxes (property, income, etc.) might change depending on where you’re moving. This could really affect your cost of living, so it’s worth understanding what you’re getting into financially before you make the leap.
Bonus: Don’t be afraid to try!
If you’re feeling unsure, give yourself a chance to try it out before making a permanent move. In my case, moving with a family of four, my partner and I were worried about planting roots somewhere we might not like. So, we decided to rent first, giving ourselves a timeframe to explore and try things out before deciding if we were staying for good or returning to NYC. The most important thing? Our mindset. We were open to trying it out and not afraid to return if it didn’t work out. Sometimes, taking the pressure off like this adds clarity and helps you make the right decisio
Take a leap!
For us, moving out of NYC wasn’t just about a change of scenery—it was about making thoughtful, intentional choices for the life we wanted to live. One year later, I can say with certainty that leaving was the right decision for me and my family. So, whether you’re leaving a big city or simply reflecting on the next chapter of your life, remember that living intentionally means making decisions that align with who you are and what you want for your future.
with love,
Val.